Monday, August 18, 2008

At the Well: Sweet Talk

I'm taking a break from my Olympics-induced, coffee-slash-sleep-deprivation-euphoria to join in with the gals At the Well today. (Have I ever mentioned I start using big words when I'm tired? Yep, I actually sound smarter when I'm exhausted. Not quite sure that I like what that says about me.)

As soon as I saw the topic for today, I knew exactly what I wanted to talk about. When it comes to sweet-talking your spouse, I don't know any better than my Aunt Ruth. Ruth is a mama to six, a grandmother to four, and a lady who longs to know the heart of Jesus like no one I've ever met. I could go on and on about how she inspires me to worship, how welcome she makes me feel in her home, how transparent she is about her weaknesses...but one thing that is truly evident to me is how much she loves her man. Uncle Aaron has always been one of my heroes anyway, but she makes it clear that he's also her hero.

You see, one of the things that Ruth has taught me is that it's not only important to sweet-talk to your man. It's also important to sweet-talk about your man. Let other people know what you appreciate about him. If he's within earshot, even better! If someone else says something good about him when he's not there, make sure to tell him!

I think one of the reasons this works so well is that it takes away the pressure to reciprocate. If your husband's anything like mine, you try to sweet-talk him and you get one of two things: a grunt as he changes the channel, or one of those awkward compliments like, "Well...uh...gee, your hair smells terrific." That's just not the way he's wired. But talk about him, and he can just sit and enjoy!

How do you sweet-talk your man? Cindy Beall is hosting At the Well this week...head over to her place and let us know!


LAURIE said...

Loved your thoughts AT THE WELL today. Exactly what I honed in on in my talk about him and to him. Two important elemants to fluff our mans feathers! -Blessings, Laurie

Denise said...

I really enjoyed this post sweetie.

Rebecca said...

"I think one of the reasons this works so well is that it takes away the pressure to reciprocate."

This is such an excellent point! Really, we should be speaking the truth when we bless him, regardless of what we will get out of it.

Tracy said...

That comment about your hubby is so funny....mine is wired the same way. My hubby is so very smart (did I do good?) he can tell you or show you anything about the Bible or most any other topic....but you ask him to fix ain't happening, not without a LOT of trial and error anyway. He knows this....but when he does manage to FIX something I make a HUGE deal out of it. It makes him so proud.

Anonymous said...

This is a wonderful thought. In fact, I (hanging my head in shame)know this. So, it's great to be reminded. Thanks!

Kim Heinecke said...

This is such an important "skill" to learn as a wife!

(And I'm sleep deprived too from all the Olympic Hoopla!)